Self-Respect Comes First

I have noticed that many people simply stop caring about their appearance and their body.

They stop exercising, stop grooming themselves, and slowly become indifferent to how they present themselves.

But I believe that a sense of beauty and self-care are deeply important.

If a person cannot appreciate the person in the mirror,

it becomes very difficult to build genuine self-esteem.

Taking care of your body and appearance is not about pleasing others.

It is a form of self-respect.

Someone who does not know how to love themselves will struggle to truly love others.

When love is built on self-abandonment and sacrifice,

it often turns into a hidden demand for return — a form of emotional pressure.

Healthy relationships are not built on self-abandonment.

They are built on a complete and self-respecting individual.

Love yourself first, then love others.

The order matters.

我觀察到很多人其實並不在意自己的外表與身體。

他們不運動，也不打理自己，對自己的形象變得放任。

但我一直認為，美學感與自我打理對一個人非常重要。

如果一個人連鏡子裡的自己都無法欣賞，

那麼他很難建立真正的自尊。

打理自己的身體與外表，並不是為了取悅別人，

而是一種對自己的尊重。

一個不懂得愛自己的人，很難真正去愛別人。

因為當愛建立在自我放棄與犧牲之上時，

它往往會變成一種隱性的索求與情感壓力。

真正健康的關係，

不是建立在自我放棄之上，

而是建立在一個完整而自尊的自己之上。

先愛自己，再愛別人。

順序很重要，不能顛倒。