Selfishness Is Not the Problem

I believe “don’t be selfish” is one of the most misunderstood moral teachings in society.

A person who cannot love themselves

cannot truly love others.

The natural order should be:

Learn to care for yourself first,

then you gain the capacity to care for others.

Selfishness itself is not wrong.

It is natural.

It is honest.

Every human being is selfish to some degree —

many simply refuse to admit it.

What we should condemn

is not selfishness itself,

but selfishness that harms others for personal gain.

Healthy selfishness means:

respecting your own needs,

protecting your boundaries,

and remaining loyal to your inner truth.

That is not evil.

That is maturity.

為自私平反｜真正成熟的人，懂得先愛自己

我認為，「不要自私」是這個社會最被誤解的道德口號之一。

一個連自己都不愛的人，

不可能真正去愛別人。

真正健康的順序應該是：

先懂得愛自己，

才有能力去愛他人。

所以，自私本身並沒有錯。

它是真實的，也是自然的。

每個人其實都是自私的，

只是很多人不願意承認而已。

我們真正應該避免的，

從來不是自私，

而是損人利己的自私。

健康的自私，

是尊重自己的需求、

保護自己的界線、

忠於自己的內心。

那不是罪惡。

那是成熟。